Yet, that's exactly what's lacking in most of our societies.
Which means the masses are not "playing" the same game as people who are on a spiritual path.
Therefore, you've got to let go of being "normal".
You have to march at the sound of your own drum.
For others, you'll be a rebel.
For yourself, you'll simply follow your Higher Self.
Do you see the paradox?
By becoming a "follower" of your own vision, you'll actually lead the way, and go as what will be perceived as "against" other's ways.
You won't be a fighter: that's not it.
You will actually give up the need to fight for anything if you really apply faith in your life.
Yes, you still can challenge someone else for fun, do your best, push yourself, but you will not engage in a fight, even if you may have to be in a quarrel (see below for an example): your perception of the situation will be different, and you'll let others play the game of conflict in front of you, without getting emotionally involved.
You can act in a way that's peaceful, calm, detached and loving in all circumstances... if you choose to.
And this is what being a rebel means because then, you won't react according to the patterns of the majority, but you'll follow what you know is true and beautiful.
Let me tell you a little story of what happened to me just a few weeks ago, and I believe I actually succeeded in being a beautiful rebel haha!
I worked for a public school.
When I've been offered a contract in November, the person knew I was working on something else (this!), and that I didn't have much time.
The offer was until December 22nd.
I knew I could respect a contract until that date, but didn't know if I would be able to keep going until a later date (I knew that, when we're offered a contract, it doesn't really have a deadline; it depends if the teacher comes back or not), and I told him so.
I took care to make sure I wouldn't be caught up in a contract that would last forever (June 2023), and talked about it to this person, as well as all the persons involved, even the Human Resources who told me: "Perfect, we'll talk around December 22nd".
Everything was perfect: I would be free by that date.
When school started in January, I got surprised: they told me that my contract was actually extended for an unknown period of time (i.e. June).
I had to "honour it or give my notice".
WHAT???
I can't.
I have other priorities.
I knew deep within myself that I couldn't simply "honour" it because I already did, and I couldn't accept to give my notice, because I wasn't quitting (first, I fulfilled my part of the deal, which meant that there was no reason I would give my notice; second, if I did, I'd still have 30 days to go before being able to leave or else they would maybe stop me from working in schools; third, I would lose the hours I worked for for this summer's unemployment program if I need it).
I got angry, that's true: I felt betrayed, since I had made it clear with everyone involved that I could only promise to be there until December 22nd.
I was also stressed: because of my past, I'm scared to disagree with authority... which made me understand that I needed to go through it, if only to show myself that this fear wasn't relevant.
Seeing all this in myself, I had to choose how I wanted to deal with it. What would be the most loving, respectful way to go through this process, because I definitely felt I had to.
During the 10 days it lasted (phone calls, meetings, etc.), I did my best to connect to 2 things:
1) Was I right? Did I really talk to everyone about it? Am I certain that I don't want to keep teaching? The answer was yes.
So I connected to my truth and hold on to it with firmness, but openness to what others might have to say (I didn't want to fight, so I stayed opened). I was solid in my knowing, not allowing myself to doubt.
2) I connected to my inner peace: whatever happens, happens. I could let go. I would simply follow the process, talk to whoever I had to talk to, and go wherever I had to go to. Peacefully. Calmly. Grounded in my knowing. I chose to simply state the facts, without getting emotional (well... I'm quite an intense person, so even "stating the facts" was probably intense...!). I would do everything I had to do, and only then will I accept whatever outcome would be. If, after having gone through the process, they would tell me I had to "honour" it, I would.
The biggest win I got wasn't necessarily about being freed from that contract, even though it was such a relief!, but about really succeeding to let go, stay centred, and also to refuse something with calm and peace. This gave me power and control by being in a non-reactive state.
By the way, just so you know, with the years, I have learned to be fearful, and it would now have been my style to transform into a storm, stating my indignation, and refusing with anger the whole situation. I would have acted that way out of fear.
Fear is a lie. I know this. So instead of going into overdrive, I sat with it. I accepted it until I felt peaceful. (We'll talk about how to let go of it, one day).
I'm 100% sure they thought I was a trouble maker, that I was rocking the boat, being a rebel. I'm pretty sure they knew I'd go as far as I'd have to in order to make things right.
But you see... I wasn't fighting. Just standing in my truth. Without being scandalized, angry, upset nor insulted. I just completely followed the process and what I knew was right, not letting my mind go into all the scenarios that could happen, and the consequences that could come with it.
The funny part?
The bonus?
I believe I was helped.
When I finally met with THE Principal, he told me, at the end of our meeting, that they had found someone else for the contract.
Would they have let go so "easily" if there was no one, since there's so little teachers right now?
I'm really not sure.
The fact they had someone made them accept to let go of me without wanting to use their power to "punish" me and give me negative consequences.
So, this is the paradox: to stand firmly, gently and peacefully in your truth makes you a rebel, because you refuse to bend down.
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